I drive myself crazy…
Hey guys,
Its been such a long time. I hope everyone is doing well, I thought that I should get back in touch and continue. Today I’ll be talking about relationships, because I learned something and want to share it.
I know at-least once in our lives we fall in love with someone, and we start off with a girlfriend/boyfriend. Since its the first step of a real relationship we test it out and see how it goes. When we do end it and breakup we learn alot from our mistakes, we also treat girlfriends/boyfriends differently. We tend to keep them away from our families and our personal life at home.
Until we are very serious about the relationship we tell our parents and hope to go to the next stop which is engagement or send a proposal to the girl/boy’s house. Then depending on the parents we tie the knot and the rest is history.
However, I still feel that some of us don’t realize that you have to treat your girlfriend different than a fiance/wife. You have to make her feel like a family member. We tend to avoid that sometimes till marriage because we are scared that our parents might scare her away. Coming from experience, The girl really wants to feel connected with the boys family.
We also should know girls are very possessive, especially in a long distance relationship. She always wants her man by her side. I guess same goes for the boy, he feels the same way. We have to realize that both sides need to compromise because It can’t be a one way affair. Yes, the guys do lay the law down most of the time, but an input of the girl is also important.
I also feel that girls need to realize that your fiance/boyfriend/husband also needs to work and do other things, and I am sure it goes the same way for the girls. But please, you have to forgive the person if they love you. Hanging up on you early, or calling you late are not good things. But girls and guys, you have to forgive especially when your in a committed relationship.
I know guys and girls have walked out because they feel their partner does not care about them. Thats wrong! You have to sit together and discuss your problems and find a solution of how things can be managed.
Always, listen to your parents guys. Especially you DESI ppl out there. Your parents always know best for you. If there are problems, you need to sit down and discuss it with your partner. Never walk away from a relationship just because of that issue.
Lastly, for all those single guys out there. Never ever prey on a girl whose about to get engaged/is engaged/ or is married. Just because a girl or guy is not happy with a relationship doesn’t mean you have to butt in and start talking to that person. I seen it happen and its really sad.
Especially when another guy walks in the picture and convinces the girl to divorce her husband or break up with her boyfriend/fiance for him. Never, ever do that, even if she is the hottest chick you have seen.. I know some girls get attached to those guys because they feel lonely.
But never ever and I repeat ever get into a relationship with that girl whose family has already found his/her bride/groom. Your going to be breaking a family and a home. What If someone does that with your mother or sister? How would you feel? Not happy! that’s for sure..
For you couples out there who get into fights and arguments.. confront the problem, find the solution, and let it go. Never bring up someones past, always look to the future.
Forgive and Forget… May GOD bless you all with wonderful spouses.
Wise words….